Co-Parenting During COVID-19

School closures, travel bans, and social distancing can interfere with normal co-parenting arrangements, and navigating these changes can cause anxiety for you and your child.

To help children  and parents through these difficult and stressful times, we’ve got some tips for co-parents to use:

Keep Your Child Informed

While you may want to protect your child from negative news, talking to them about what’s going on can help them understand why things might be a bit different for a while.

When talking to your child about coronavirus, remember to:

  • Remain calm and reassuring
  • Share information in an age-appropriate way
  • Be sensitive to their fear and anxiety
  • Encourage questions
  • Stick to the facts and explain that some information online isn’t true
  • Don’t share more information than you need to in order to avoid overwhelming them
  • Focus on what you’re doing to stay safe and why changes to routine are necessary.

If possible, talk to your co-parent and agree on the best way to approach the topic so your child is getting consistent messages. With the support of both parents, your child may be able to adjust more quickly and easily to new arrangements.

 

Show Them How to Protect Themselves

One of the best ways to protect your child’s safety is to teach them how to follow health advice. It doesn’t have to be scary – for example, you might like to put on their favourite song while showing them how to wash their hands properly to make it a fun learning activity. Or check out The Wiggles: The Handwashing Song.

Explain why playground equipment is a no-go zone and why playdates are off-limits for now and find alternative options to socialise, like video calls and online games with their friends.

Work together with your co-parent to determine rules around hygiene and social distancing to keep your kid’s safety as your main priority.

 

Be Compliant with Court Orders and Agreements

You still have to meet the terms of court orders and parenting agreements during COVID-19, unless you have a good reason not to or you both agree on other arrangements.

School closures, travel restrictions, or quarantine rules may mean you’re unable to follow some aspects of your court orders. If this is the case, you’ll need to give your co-parent plenty of notice and work together to come up with a solution that suits everyone.

For example, if you’d normally do changeovers at a café, play centre, or shopping centre that’s now closed due to COVID-19, try to agree on a different changeover location.

Be sure to get any changes to your custody agreement in writing – even if it’s just through text message. Keeping a clear record of changes will help everyone, including the Court, to understand what agreements were reached.

The Family Court of Australia has published an FAQs page with more helpful information on co-parenting and family law.

 

Work with Your Co-Parent

Co-parenting involves making plenty of decisions together – especially right now. Try to be flexible and understanding as you work as a team to keep your child’s best interests as your main priority.

For example, if your co-parent is in self-isolation and it’s unsafe for your child to physically spend time with them, accommodate other ways to communicate, such as over the phone or video calls. Offer to make up for the time apart now with more time together in the future.

Understand that times are tough for your co-parent, too, so try to approach tricky conversations with compassion and open-mindedness.

 

Maintain Routine Where you Can

While you may need to make changes to your normal arrangements, it’s important to try and maintain some sense of ‘normal’ for your child by setting a daily routine.

Routine makes children feel safe. Keeping days structured with regular mealtimes and bedtimes can help bring them a sense of comfort and security during a time of immense change and uncertainty.

 

Look After Yourself

If you’re feeling stressed, anxious or overwhelmed by the current situation and would like some support, our counsellors are here for you. We’re committed to supporting people throughout the coronavirus situation.

We’re continuing to deliver services via phone and video-conferencing.
For more information visit Individual CounsellingRelationship Counselling and Children and Family Counselling.


Source: Relationships Australia QLD
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